Love Pattern Quiz
Which of the following best describes your situation?
I recently had my heart broken, and my fear of being hurt again is making it difficult to be open to finding love.
I want to meet my soulmate, but the day-to-day grind is making it hard for me to feel feminine or attractive.
I’ve got my own life together, so why do I keep attracting the wrong guys?
...now, let’s discover which of the five Love Patterns could be sabotaging your chances of finding the right guy for you:
The last time a partner broke up with you, what was your reaction?
You hadn’t seen it coming at all, you were really surprised.
It confirmed your suspicions that you’re destined to get hurt in all your relationships.
You couldn’t let go, things got messy, and there was a lot of drama
”How could he do this after I went out my way to take care of him?” It felt SO unfair.
”Meh - this relationship wasn’t perfect anyway..,”
Most of the men you meet are…
DEFinitely below your standards
Fixer-uppers: maybe there’s potential, but only after some work
Not worth the possible pain and headache of getting hurt
Potentially Mr. Right, if things go well
A challenge, and you love a challenge
Your ideal soulmate is someone who…
Makes you feel safe, he can be trusted
Likes being nurtured and taken care of.
Is perfect in every category - he ticks every item on your ”Soulmate List”
Wants to build a romantic dream life with you.
Brings surprise, chaos, and even a little danger, and you like it ;)
When your perfect match tells his friends about you, what do you hope he says?
She takes care of me and anticipates my every need.
She’s sexy, fun, and always surprising me with her crazy ideas
She’s perfect, everything I’ve ever wanted in a woman, in fact, I’ve got a checklist for the perfect partner, and she nails every item.
No matter what else, I’ll always make her feel safe, protect her, and never hurt her.
She’s ”the one” and I can’t wait to live happily ever after with her.
Have you ever had a partner you’ve wanted to change? What was that like?
Rarely happens- if somebody doesn’t meet your high standards, they won’t make it past the first date.
Yes, you liked it because you had something you could help him improve.
You thought he was perfect at first, then discovered he was a totally different person than you thought.
Yes, but you left it alone because it wasn’t worth the fight.
Of Course! The reality: no relationship’s going to be perfect without you both putting in lots of work.
Almost there. Now let’s explore (be honest) how you’d react in the following crazy situations...
Your friend invites you on a last minute double date with her boyfriend’s cute roommate, but you’ve got a deadline at work. What to do!?!?
That’s easy: forget work and take the date!
That’s easy: you have to work. Simple-as-that!
Feel Conflicted - you’re loyal to your work, but also want to please your friend and your potential date.
Who says you can’t do both? You make a plan to get up early to finish your work AND go on the date tonight. No big thing.
Find yourself in a mini state of chaos, consulting friends or family about what you should do.
A friend sets you up on a blind date. Before it you feel...
In ”Prep Mode” - booking your hair stylist, planning what to wear
Curious- wanting to know more about him - what he wants, what he likes, what he’s looking for
Wary - you’ve had some terrible first dates before
A roller coaster ride of emotions - from the highest high to the lowest low
Excited - this could be ”The One"!
You’re on a date. You like him. But he’s not ”marriage material”. What do you do?
Call it off right away: you don’t want to risk either of you feeling pain down the road.
You can fix it. You’ll make it your responsibility to help him live up to his potential.
Start a sexual relationship anyway: maybe that will change things.
Call it off right away: he obviously doesn't make the grade.
What’s the problem? Just date him until ”Mr. Right” shows up.
Now for a twist: say you’re in a relationship with your soulmate, and he tells you he’s having dinner with an ex. How do you react?
You feel somewhat threatened and let him know that’s not appropriate
You’re fine with it, and look for ways you could go too.
You don’t approve, but don’t tell him, instead planning to seduce him to stay home with you instead of going out with her.
You’re fine with it, and tell him to have a good time.
You feel worried, but you’re not going to risk a conflict, so you don’t say anything.
Awesome! You’re getting close. Time for the last round of questions. What’s been holding you back...
When you think about why you haven’t met your soulmate yet, why do you think that is?
All the good ones seem to be already taken, and those still single just don’t measure up.
Too many men are cheaters, liars, and only out for one thing...and it’s not marriage
You just haven’t wanted to deal with all the hassles and risks that come with a relationship
It’s definitely you: You just haven’t been 100% ready
What’s the worry? When the time is right, fate will bring you together.
When your past relationships have gone wrong, why do you think this is?
Because it was too hard on me, and they didn’t appreciate my spontaneity and fun
Because they hurt me, let me down, I didn’t feel safe with them.
Because the guys have been allergic to commitment.
Because they seemed great at first, then turned out to be waaaaay different than I thought.
Because they were all threatened by my career success.
When you look at your past relationships, what statement below most closely reflects your positive experiences?
I’ve been too busy to have many positive experiences in relationships.
I’ve loved having someone to dream with.
I’ve loved the excitement of meeting someone new.
I’ve loved being swept off my feet and appreciated by a man.
I’ve loved having a partner to nurture – someone to cook delicious meals for/organize special dates for.
Last 2 questions get ready to get your personalized results and stop letting your Love Pattern hold you back!
If you were in a relationship where things had not been going well for some time, you’d most likely...
Become more attentive to your partner, help him more, in an effort to turn things around
Amp up the romance and maybe even buy some sexy lingerie to spice things up
End it quickly - before it got too painful or things just got worse
Remain optimistic and hope you could smooth things out
Work on yourself – maybe take a class, join the gym or make a list of things you could do to improve yourself and the relationship
The most important trait you’re looking for in your soulmate is: